I was always interested in the question of why nature "takes a back seat" for the children of geniuses. And does it do this in general? Often, for some reason, people recall Leo Tolstoy. He was a great man, but his children - so-so. The greatness disappeared. It is noteworthy that if you ask, well, why were the children not successful? The interlocutor thinks for a few seconds and responds something like, "You know about them? I don't. Hence nature takes a back seat. If it did not, then we would all know about them".
I recently read a book by Doug Wead, entitled "All the Presidents' Children", in which he talks about why the lives of the children of presidents are formed in one way or another. Here are the points that I found interesting in this regard:
1. Parent celebrities have their own, most correct way of perceiving. Given that they themselves have achieved a lot in life, these people believe that their views on parenting are the most correct. With their ideas of how a child should look, behave and what it should know, they impose excessive demands on their offspring. It happens that these demands are not real to the child in principle. And the parents themselves had never possessed such skills in the past. Some of the knowledge that parent geniuses require their children to know was not acquired by the parents until adulthood. Children cannot withstand this pressure and feel that they do not meet expectations. This affects them later in life, as when they feel they are failures, they refuse to develop themselves further.
2. The life of a celebrity is not so easy. It is also moving, the level of life and the relations of others changes. Children, in general, are often very conservative and do not tolerate being taken out of their familiar surroundings regularly. This also affects their adaptation. Contact with their famous parents is rare and irregular. Children can be remembered suddenly or dragged to formal occasions only when necessary.
3. Society often very closely refers to the flaws in the character and abilities of the children of celebrities and exaggerate their importance. But it pays no attention to the successes. People see poor quality and failures as "typical" and achievements as "any fool can do that".Those around the children of geniuses are often waiting for something unusual and extraordinary. Even if the child of a celebrity makes good progress in their lives, that will often not be enough.
4. Children of geniuses and celebrities find it very difficult to have their own identity. Those around them, and not only society, but also family, see them as "children of the great John Doe" and not as individuals with their own desires and abilities.
5. It is difficult for them to make their own choices in life. Their behaviour immediately casts a shadow over their great parent, and this is not encouraged. If the child makes even a minor infraction, it indirectly transfers onto the whole family. Thus from childhood, the offspring of a great man must think very hard about what to do and how to do it. They do not have the right to make a mistake. What if it turned out they were married to the wrong person? They must learn to endure it. Divorce is not just a divorce, but a scandal and airing of dirty laundry.
6. Children of geniuses and celebrities often lack adequate feedback. Their friends are more likely to include sycophants who are with them because of the prestige. Enemies will also hate them for subjective reasons. For example, because he is the "son of the President".
So, yes, children of great people do not always prove to be as great as their parents. And then in general are almost at the bottom of society. They do not lie in the gutter, but actively hide their worthlessness, defects and failures from prying eyes. Sometimes it spills out and the careless child is once again dragged to the side out of sight. However, this is most likely not so much the fault of nature, tired after creating a parent genius, but of stressful living circumstances.
ALWAYS BELIEVE THAT SOMETHING WONDERFUL IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN.
- Does nature take a back seat for the children of geniuses?